"If your father is all of a sudden flying off of the handle or breaking dishes, or whatever, and it happens to be after you said something, one might make the wrong conclusion that his behavior is the result of your activity," he said.
Kryn Miner joined the military in 1987, serving with the 82nd Airborne Division. He became a paratrooper, ranger and sniper, jumping into Panama and serving in the Gulf War, Iraq and Afghanistan.
Amy Miner said things changed after the blast in Afghanistan, one of 19 in his 25-year career. He tried to kill himself in September 2013.
About a month ago, Amy Miner wrote down what her husband experienced in a day. They include anxiety, anger and depression. He felt lost, empty, suspicious, worthless, like a failure. He felt guilty for being home while some of his comrades died or were still deployed. He felt like he should go back overseas and had suicidal thoughts throughout the day, wanting to hurt himself because of the guilt and the hurt that he had caused his family.
He began therapy at a Veterans Affairs facility, but Amy Miner said he often had to wait for hours to see different counselors. He stayed overnight at a VA hospital but doctors told him it wasn't the place for him, Amy Miner said. He got into another treatment program unrelated to the VA and learned how to cope with some of his depression and anxiety, but they didn't deal with PTSD.
He turned to the Lone Survivors Foundation, which helps wounded veterans return to civilian life, offering retreats to service members diagnosed with combat-related PTSD and their families. The foundation educates veterans and their families about PTSD, coping skills and reducing symptoms of stress.
"He was deeply committed to the notion that our nation's veterans have access to the peer support network and resources they need to manage the impact of their time in the service," said Beau Teal, the owner of CrossFit Burlington, where Miner was a trainer. He also developed a workout for veterans battling emotional wounds. It's 32 minutes long, representing the 32 veterans who either attempt or succeed in committing suicide daily, Amy Miner said.
She says her husband's new mission was getting help for others suffering from PTSD, including a Chicago TV appearance to speak about the Lone Survivors Foundation and telling his story at a gala to raise money.
After the tragic end to his life, Amy Miner says she will continue her husband's work.
"Kryn was my everything," she said. "(I) will not ever quit on him or this."